Session 5

The Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Life

Five Step System

Session Five

Module 4 – Reframing




Welcome to Session Five of The Heal Your Emotions, Heal Your Life Five Step System. In this session, we will take two issues you are facing and Reframe them so that you can look at them in a new way and redirect the subconscious mind to create different outcomes.

A presupposition of all of the processes included in this program is that behind every behavior is a positive intention. Motives drive behavior. Our minds do nothing without some (usually unconscious) purpose.

What we will do in two Reframing Processes in this session is reframe or change the way you are looking at the issues by finding the positive intentions in the parts of you that created or allowed the issues to emerge. We will also then ask your subconscious mind to find other ways to bring you the gifts, the positive intentions, without giving you the illness, symptoms or issues you are facing.

What is Framing?

Framing is a mental structure that is built upon the beliefs you have about yourself, your roles, your circumstances, and about other people. It is a structure you use to ascribe meaning to given circumstances. In other words, the meaning you ascribe to any event is dependent upon how you frame it in your mind. Your frames shape how you see the world, how you see yourself, how you view others, and how you interpret your life.

Frames can be of a positive or of a negative nature; they can also be within your control or out of your control. They are either helpful within the context you are using them, or they are not.  They either expand your opportunities and the possibilities of the situation, or they limit your options moving forward. They will either work for you or against you, depending on the objectives you have in mind.

You will, for example, use frames to handle feedback and criticism. You will use them to solve problems, to get a better understanding of the long-term consequences of your decisions and actions, to connect unrelated events and circumstances, and to make more sense of the world you live in. These frames allow you to gather unique understandings of your life experiences. And it is these understandings that shape what you will do and how you will do things moving forward.

The frames of reference you use collaborate with your beliefs and values. You will, therefore, frame things in a certain way that corresponds with what you believe and value most in life, whether your beliefs are helpful or not. This basically means that every frame you make is linked to an underlying belief and/or assumption that is implied by your thoughts. In this way, your frames provide you with a context in which you can assess your progress. This is helpful, but can also be unhelpful. It is helpful because it allows you to unlock new opportunities and explore other possibilities that might be advantageous. However, it is unhelpful if your frames are built upon your limiting belief systems. In such instances – and without much objective thought – you might unconsciously be setting boundaries and putting limitations on yourself regarding what you can or can’t do; this, therefore, limits your perspective, opportunities and the possibilities before you.

There is, however, a positive intention behind all your thoughts. Therefore, all the frames of reference you use are there to help you in some way, or at least in some specific context.

Your frames of reference provide you with a “focus” on your day-to-day activities. These activities will either support your goals, or they will hinder your progress. It will all depend on the belief systems that are influencing your behaviors, thoughts, decisions, perceptions, and emotions. If these beliefs are helpful, they will assist you in achieving your goals. However, if they are unhelpful, you will struggle to realize your desired outcomes.

What is Reframing?

Reframing happens when an undesirable behavior or trait is conferred a positive intention. By reframing, we can change our outcomes.

As the late spiritual teacher Wayne Dyer said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

We all know stories of incredible trial and triumph. We all know examples of people who, in spite of horrific circumstances, were able to reframe their experience and come out on the other side with a deeper insight and gratitude for their lives.

Our pain has hermetic value…it is a messenger like Hermes the messenger in Greek mythology. We need to respect the value of pain and ask “What is my body trying to tell me?”

When an illness, or any issue in life is approached as meaningless, you don’t get the experience of deepening as a human being. Regarding pain, all spiritual traditions ask ” What did you learn from that?” To not learn is to become numb.

Viktor Frankl, author of Man’s Search for Meaning, said, “If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering.  Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death”.

One of the gifts of suffering is compassion. When we experience the deepest depths of pain, we learn to have compassion for others who are suffering. Once we receive the gifts, suffering is no longer necessary.

This is what the reframe processes you will experience in this session are designed to do…allow you to receive the gifts in your illness or problem, so that you can look at it in a new way, and then move forward with a whole new outlook, which will positively affect your next steps, and the outcome of your illness or problem.

Another great quote from Victor Frankl is, “The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails, the way in which he takes up his cross, gives him ample opportunity – even under the most difficult circumstances- to add a deeper meaning to his life.”

We cannot appreciate the light unless we have seen darkness, or joy without experiencing sorrow.

When you are in that dark place looking for a way out of your hardship, you are faced with two choices: give up or tap into the inner resources that you didn’t even know you had.

I believe that looking at every obstacle in your life as a gift for your highest good will change your life…it has definitely changed mine.

The Reframing Process

For the first Reframing process, choose your main issue that you would like to stop experiencing, whether it is an illness, symptom, behavior or response.  For the second shorter version of this process you will experience after that, choose a second issue.

The issues may include:

  • Weight Issues (For people who can’t lose weight with normal diet and exercise)
  • Smoking (For people who both want to quit but don’t want to give up smoking)
  • Alcohol (For people who know they are destroying their families but can’t give up alcohol)
  • Failure To Succeed in School or in Business

And many, many more issues, including having a rash, feeling ashamed or hearing an inner critical voice.

Now…let’s begin the Reframing Process.

** At the 7 minute, 38 second mark ( 7:38):

The Reframing Process**

I’ll give you a few moments to write down your insights….and then we will do a quicker, shorter version of this process on another issue. I am sharing both of these processes with you and providing the recordings so that you can come back to them and choose whether you’d like to use the longer, more deeply relaxing process, or use the shorter version when you are short on time.

The Quick Reframing Process

Now…let’s get started on The Quick Reframing Process.

** At the 32 minute, 26 second mark ( 32:26):

The Quick Reframing Process**


Next week, in Session Six, you will experience two deeply healing forgiveness process. First, we will focus on self-forgiveness. For the second forgiveness process, you can choose to focus on a person or experience you need to forgive. If nothing particular comes to mind, you will experience deep forgiveness of all the issues and people in your past that you need to forgive and release, whether you are conscious of them or not.

I look forward to joining all of you again at the same time next week for session six.

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